As a single at 25 years of age I’ve spent years hearing people say things like “why are you still single?” “That person would be great for you” “oh, you’ll find the right one someday” and the list of quotes goes on. So these are my thoughts on being single in a relationship obsessed society. While a relationship can be a blessing being single is very much a blessing too. It’s something that would be recognized as such and a whole lot easier if society didn’t teach relationship=happiness and pressure singles to “find somebody”. This causes singles to run out and try to find anybody who is willing to date them in an attempt to attain this happiness and get out from the judgemental “why are you still single” questions. The problem is a relationship doesn’t equal happiness. I would say a relationship=frustration and sorrow. The real equation would be a relationship with the right person = joy, laughter, sorrow, tears and everything in between. The key word is the Right person. The right person will compliment you not complete you and if happiness is what you are seeking and it’s something you don’t already have than you most likely think a significant other will complete you. The only one who can complete you is God and without Him this completion you seek will never be obtained. Another person can’t complete you, only God can do that. If you find you feel an empty place in your heart and you’ve tried to fill it with other things finding no peace or joy than you need to give your life to Jesus. You won’t regret it and He will heal your heart and bring you more joy than you can imagine. Until you allow God to change your heart and mind you will always be searching for fulfillment in the wrong things. Relationships being one of those things most likely. Singleness is a time to be celebrated, there is so much to be thankful for, so much time to grow and learn, to travel and make big decision, to seek God and find out who you are in Him, to serve God and bring the world to cometo know Him. Maybe one day He will bless you with a significant other to share your life with but until then seek God and rejoice in your time of singleness. There’s so much to be thankful for and to rejoice over. Consider my advice it doesn’t come without lesson on my part. After years of waiting for “Mr. right” I’ve come to the conclusion that God is the only one who can complete me and I will no longer put my life on hold for “Mr. Right” to show up (after all there’s so much life to live why waste it) if he comes he comes and if not I’ll have lived a life not missing or on what God has for me. I hope this article has helped some of my fellow single people out there. Live your life, serve God and if He has someone for you they will be in your life when He says it’s time, not before, so don’t try and force it.
Love and God bless,