Ruth Didn’t Sit Around Waiting For A Man
Over the past week I have felt led to talk about Ruth. A lot of young ladies are under the misconception that Ruth sat around waiting for Boaz to come and rescue her from her life. Many young women look to Ruth and Boaz as the ideal for what they want their love story to be like. If you ask a single woman “Is there anyone special in your life?” they will often reply “No, I’m still waiting for my Boaz.” This is often said with a twinge of longing and a melancholy sigh. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but Ruth was not “Waiting for her Boaz.” What do I mean by that? What I mean is, Ruth was working and she was living her life. Ruth wasn’t looking for a man when she ran into Boaz, she was living her life and trying to build a life. Boaz was a blessing given to her by God for her faithfulness to Him and to Naomi.
Ruth was a Moabite woman living in Moab with her Jewish husband and in laws. Ruth’s husband, father in law, and brother in law all passed away at the same time due to illness leaving Ruth, her mother in law Naomi, and her sister in law without husbands. Naomi decided to return home and she told her daughter in laws to stay in Moab so that they may find husbands and remarry as Jews and Moabites typically did not marry nor did they like each other. There was nothing in Naomi’s home land (Bethlehem) for Ruth but she chose to go with her mother in law anyway. Choosing to abandon her god’s and her home land to serve Jehovah and help her mother in law Ruth went to Bethlehem with Naomi.
An unmarried woman had a hard time earning a living in those times. Marriage was the ideal situation for a woman in those days, but Ruth didn’t go for ideal she went with faithfulness and obedience to God and Naomi. Ruth had to find a way to provide for herself and Naomi. Ruth did so as we see in Ruth 2 that Ruth had gone to glean in the fields to provide for herself and Naomi. The field she happened upon was that of Boaz. Boaz was a relative of Naomi’s on her husband’s side. Ruth worked hard a diligently most likely looking a mess with her hair all disheveled, dirt all over her skin and clothes, dirt underneath her fingernails, she was probably even a bit sweaty. Yet as she was working Boaz noticed her and inquired about her. Boaz liked what he heard and what he saw. A woman who abandoned all that was familiar and stayed faithful to her mother in law and to God. Working hard to provide a life for them both. Boaz found that insanely attractive and he showed Ruth favor. The key part of this is Boaz took notice of Ruth while she was working, while she was living her life, while she was focusing on the task at hand. While she was trusting God and being faithful. Ruth’s character and heart is what brought her favor in Boaz’s eyes. He admired her character, her faithfulness to her mother in law, her heart, her courage and her work ethic.
Now that we’ve established Ruth and what Boaz found attractive about her we need to talk about how this applies to you. Just like Ruth as a Woman of God you must live your life abandoning what is comfortable to you and being faithful to God, seeking God’s will, allowing Him to help you provide for a household like a Proverbs 31 woman, allowing Him to build your character. A godly man seeking a godly wife wants a woman of great character who can take care of a home, someone he can build his life with, he can build a home with and raise a family with, and someone he can be proud to call his wife. Ruth found favor in Boaz’s sight because she proved by her character and work ethic that she could do those things and Boaz was highly attracted to her. A man doesn’t want an incapable woman for his wife.
A man wants a help mate, not a helpless mate. A man wants someone who can assist him on this crazy journey called life. A life of marriage takes years of preparation that starts long before a wedding is even remotely close. Being married is hard work and a godly man needs a godly woman strong enough to handle that. My advice to all single women out there is: Don’t put your life on hold “waiting for your Boaz.” Make a life for yourself. Pursue a relationship with God and seek His will for your life, set goals, dream dreams, find out where and what god wants you to do, be faithful and grow spiritually and emotionally, work hard and learn to take care of a household, become the godly woman God created you to be. Go where He leads you to go and who knows? Maybe while you’re busy working you’ll find yourself in “Boaz’s field.” And if you’ve faithfully done what God has asked of you until that day than you will have a life your Boaz will be honored to be a part of and you’ll be a wife he is proud to have a part of his. Remember nothing is more attractive to a godly man than a godly woman who reflects Proverbs 31. Make sure that’s what you are when you finally meet him. Trust me when I say on this ending note that you will have a better idea of who you want to spend the rest of your life with when you already know who you are to be. You can only know that when you seek God because it is there you will find yourself.
- Christine Sawyer