My name is Christine, I am 25 years old in a few weeks I will be turning 26 and I am a single woman of God. When I was 16 I made a promise before God and my family to live a chaste life as I waited for my future husband and that I would not date just to date but would date with the intent to marry. I made this promise so that I may live according to God’s will and for the protection of both myself and my future husband. My parents gave me for my 16th birthday a purity ring that I have worn ever since I made my promise.
As the 10 year anniversary of that promise approaches in the next few weeks I have reflected on what it has meant in my life as well as how different my life could have been had I not made that promise. I personally feel that my promise to God and my future husband has helped me grow as a person as well as kept me from relationships or dating that could have pushed me off course of what God wanted for my life thus far.
Once in my life I had prayed that God would keep any man who wasn’t meant to be my future husband away from me. I promise you He has kept to that prayer over the years when I was younger and as I got older He gave me the discernment to recognize who was not. I have been asked out on many dates since I made that promise and I have turned down many dates. Not because they were bad men or dangerous in any way but because I knew they were not my future husband.
I have grown in so many ways as a person and child of God. I have grown in ways I might not have if I had been dating different men or had just been in a relationship in general. I have come to a peace in my singleness and I have found that praying for my future husband while we are a part as well as praying for our future for when we are together has helped me have a peace about who I am and where God has me in my life right now. I believe prayer is powerful and I pray for him, that he becomes all that God created him to be. I wouldn’t change a thing about where I am right now. I have found over and over again fulfillment in serving God, it is what I live for and it brings me joy and hope and happiness like no other. I have found a joy in my singleness and all that I have been able to do because of it.
Singleness is a blessing and I think people need to start teaching it as one. To all my single sisters in Christ: you have a great gift. Being single gives you an opportunity to serve others, to grow in God, to accomplish goals and make dreams come true. You have family and friends who love you and a God who made your life with purpose. Don’t settle for anything less than God’s best for you. You are worth so much more than you could ever imagine. Allow God to grow you into the person He created you to be. I can’t promise you when He will bring your husband into your life or if it’s even His will that you have one. All I can promise you is that God has an amazing plan for your life and it doesn’t begin when you get married it began the day you are born and it will continue until He calls you home. Don’t waste your life waiting for a man to come into your life. Live and if God has a man who can compliment your life than you will know who that man is when the time is right.
Ten years may seem like a long time but to me it’s been worth every moment of serving God and seeing where He is going to bring me next. Every season I’ve grown, I’ve learned and I’ve become better. I would wait forever if it meant that I could give my husband the joy of knowing that no matter who tried to come into my life, my love and heart was only ever for him.
I really hope this has encouraged any of my single Woman of God women out there. Never forget how valuable you are to God, He loves you and He has a plan.